As some of my readers know, one of the healing modalities I practice and teach is The Healing Codes. (There’s a link to learn more about this at the bottom of this post.)
Recently someone who purchased the Healing Codes wrote to Tom Costello (the lead coach/practitioner and main support for the rest of us) about his experience with his package (which he was not happy about as you’ll read below). I thought Tom’s response was enlightening and valuable enough to share, which he has given me permission to do.
(It’s interesting to note that anger is the theme of my last post as well. I certainly believe it’s a big part of our current experience on planet Earth, so we could all do with more understanding about how to master it – and transmute it into its higher vibration sister: personal power.)
The unhappy client wrote:
Tried it religiously for 1 year..no change..another simplistic new age rip off..
Try reality – common sense for a change – it works surprisingly.
And Tom answered:
Thank you for your testimonial. You probably didn’t realize you were giving a testimonial so I will explain what I mean.
I checked our records and notice that we ‘gifted’ the Healing Codes package to you in March 2006. You paid for shipping. You have given evidence that we acted generously, compassionately and charitably to you when you asked us to help you. That is obviously not much of a ‘rip off.’ I interpret my willingness to respond to your email as an act of generosity and continued caring for your healing.
You say there was ‘no change’ so let me talk about the ideas of change, progress, and improvement. This is an area that is often misunderstood. Consider this image: a 10 rung ladder with each step of the ladder representing an different emotional state. The bottom rung would be labeled “Shame” and that is the least effective state (rung) to be stuck in (standing on). Next step up is Apathy. This is where we find depressed people. Next up is Grief where people are stuck in the disappointment of some loss or abandonment. Next up is Fear. This is the negative anticipation that more grief and pain will be coming. Next rung up the ladder of Emo-States is Lust. Lust means craving. This is where we find addictions, compulsions, etc. Next step up is Anger which I call the emotion of ‘Stop!’ It can be powerful if used appropriately. Next step up is Pride which is useful if it gives good feelings about oneself but less valuable if used to put down (intending to drive someone else down the ladder or to lessen them in some way). The top three and most positive rungs of this ‘ladder’ are labeled Courageousness, Acceptance, and Peace. They are the most positive emo-states.
Here is how to view the emo-states: each Emo-State is more effective than the Emo-States below it. Each Emo-State is less effective than the ones above it. In other words, you will be more effective as you ‘climb this ladder of emotional states.’ Your view of the world, yourself, and opportunities and even God change based on the Emo-State you are in. It is easy to imagine that a person can literally see more from a higher rung than from a lower rung of a ladder. The same is true with emotional states.
I recommend that a person measure progress by their climb up this ladder because it is easier to recognize. You also can imagine as you consider the Emo-States that the stress decreases as you go up from Shame ….. to …… Peace. As that stress decreases, your body is better able to repair itself. In the lower states you remain in “fight or flight” and this disempowers the immune system, ability to think and reason, etc.
So let’s consider the possibility of your progress up this ladder of Emo-States. What state were you in when you asked us for help getting the Healing Codes package? Unless you were scamming us, you weren’t able to pay for the package, you needed help dealing with some ‘issues of the heart’ that resulted in physical problems, and you were probably feeling like a ‘victim to your circumstances.’
Eleven months later you are writing an email from the Emo-States of Anger and Pride. I would say that is great progress! Congratulations! Anger, blame, name calling are usually not seen as good things but when you consider where you have been they could be big improvements. Pride in yourself is good and the first major step in this area is belittling someone else, looking down your nose at someone else. Again, it is possible to be insulted by someone who wrote this email unless one is aware of Emo-States. All our capabilities are determined by our perception of self and life and the Emo-States directly indicate those perceptions.
If you are seeking physical healing I would say that you are getting closer to facilitating your body doing just that. Reach for Courageousness. Courageousness is the feeling we had as young boys. It is the feeling of excitement, discovery, adventure, fun at finding out what happens next. Men are natural explorers, natural discoverers. Make a game of your explorations. Lighten up. Get into it as a game. You will help your body immensely.
Good luck on your journey and thanks again for taking the time to write your testimonial. I will make sure your Coach knows of your progress.
Tom
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